Why does Valentine’s Day have to be miserable? Why can’t it be about loving yourself and loving others? Here are my thoughts on the subject…
Growing up, I used to legitimately dreaded Valentine’s Day. I never had anyone to share it with until Nick. But even now, being a military family, Valentine’s Day is hard. This year, like most years, we’re apart.
In the (almost) six years we’ve been together, we’ve only been together for two Valentine’s Day. Our first one together (almost three years into our dating relationship) will probably never be topped, Nick surprised me at work and got down on one knee and asked me to marry him (well that’s not quite what happened but that’s for another time!! ha ha). The next Valentine’s Day, Nick had actually just left for deployment and I had just moved back home to be with family while he was gone. Last year, we decided to lay low and have a casual Valentine’s Day together. We ordered take out and were so excited to try this new delivery service that just started on base. Well they messed up our order and delivered it to us a whole week early (long story!!) but then assured us it was corrected, however we didn’t get our meal until about 9pm on Valentine’s Day. I was so hungry by the time that poor delivery driver made it to our door, both Nick and I devoured our meals without saying a word and then promptly went to bed because it was so late. So romantic right?
This year, we’re spending it apart, again. It’s funny. I’ve had 23 Valentine’s Day in my lifetime and 21 of them have been spent alone. That used to make me sad, but now as I’m getting older, I realize that I shouldn’t give a stupid holiday that much power over me. Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day celebrating love. That doesn’t have to mean romantic love! I read a post today on Instagram that said “use today as an excuse to love a little extra on your family, your kids, your friends, your coworkers, your neighbors, everyone you come into contact with.” That’s what Valentine’s Day should really be about, not just flowers and chocolates and lovey-dovey feelings because to be honest, that’s not real life. Love is hard. Love doesn’t always come easily. But in the end, it is so worth every struggle and hardship and today is celebrating all of that.
So hug your family a little tighter today. Text your friends and tell them how much they mean to you. Spread a little extra love today. Valentine’s Day will never be my favorite holiday (it just can’t compete with a Thanksgiving spread or the joy of Christmas morning) but it can be an extra special day spent celebrating those you love most, whoever they may be (hey, your dog counts too!).
Tonight, I’ll be going to a Bible study with a wonderful group of people from my church and when I get home, I’ll draw a bubble bath and put on a face mask to treat myself a little bit. A little self-love goes a long way.
So Happy Valentine’s Day to you! May you spend today loving yourself and loving others and I’ll try to do the same.